So, how do I approach your ceremony ?
Firstly, and you’ll be fed up reading this … this is not a wedding ….its your wedding. So it will be as unique and as individual as you both.
There will be no … “Oh, you’ll have to do this“ or “You can’t do that” or “You’ll need to include this“.
The style of the ceremony will be whatever you choose … relaxed and laid back, light hearted and informal, traditional or contemporary. It’s your choice.
You can say as much or as little as you are comfortable with during the ceremony – the absolute legal minimum, however, is one sentence where you each accept the other in marriage ( and I know you can manage that ! ).
You can include a number of what we call “ symbolic gestures” – you may have heard of some, e.g a handfasting or a toast from a quaich. I will of course, talk through these with you when we meet.
A Haandfasting using Tartan Ribbons
You can have friends or family members involved in the ceremony – perhaps by doing a reading or a poem. You can write your own vows or I can make suggestions for you .. or help you write your own – of course you don’t need to have any vows if you don’t want to …. remember, this is your wedding !
Before I begin to write your ceremony I will have met with you and found out just what kind of ceremony you want , I will also have found out a bit about you and I will more than likely have given you homework – just a few things to make your ceremony more about you and so much more personal.
I want your ceremony to not only set the tone for the rest of the day, but be a part of the day which you and your guests will never forget.
P.S In the last year I have conducted a ” Whisky Wedding” ( naturally, in a distillery ), a “Surprise wedding” ( yes the bride and groom knew about it, but most of their guests thought they were going to a birthday party ! ) , a ” Pirate Wedding ” on the Tall Ship, Glenlee, a “back garden wedding”, a wedding for a couple who flew in from New York and there were only the two of them, myself and two hotel staff as witnesses.
So there have been “weddingy” weddings, “not at all weddingy” weddings and many unique and special weddings in between.
What kind of wedding would you like ?
Its Your Humanist Wedding 